Growing up in Burrwood

Monday, January 30, 2012

I’m so pissed

Excuse my language but I can’t help it.

As you all know my daughter left her husband and will be getting a divorce.  The kids have been going to their dad’s on the weekends and every weekend Josh comes home sad and upset.

Last Sunday night as Josh was getting ready for bed he told me that he doesn’t want to go to his dads anymore. I asked him why and he told me the things Jon says to them. He makes them fold his laundry. Ok, that’s all well and good as it doesn’t hurt kids to have chores. The problem is, if they don’t do it the way he likes it done he hollers at them and calls them retards.  They have to bring wood in for the wood burner and if they bring the wrong kind in he does the same thing. Josh said they don’t do anything while they’re there and that he spends pretty much of the time in his room.  He said if they get rowdy like they do here he yells and says mean things to them.  He says that they can’t do anything right no matter how hard they try and they don’t know what’s right and what’s wrong.

Well, last night as he was getting ready for bed he says to me, “ I hate my Dad “  I asked him what happened now and you won’t believe the things he told me.  He said he was outside playing on his snowboard and when he fell off his dad rolled his eyes and again called him retard.  Josh has a little girlfriend who he talks and texts with and that evidently irritates Jon.  Josh told me that Jon called Taylor a little Bitch! Now who does that?!  She’s a little girl for heavens sake.  Not only that Jon told them that he had things against Sis that he could take the kids away from her if he wanted.  Josh was really upset about that because he told me he doesn’t want to live with his Dad.  Now believe me, Jon has nothing that would warrant the courts taking the kids away from her.  She works hard, never turns down overtime and never misses a day of work.  She doesn’t go out and party, she doesn’t do drugs and she isn’t dating or even interested in dating.  Jon is just saying these things because he’s pouting and is taking it out on the kids.

I told Josh that sometimes when parents are going through a divorce they say things they shouldn’t and use the kids against each other.  Josh says “My mom doesn’t do that”  And I know for a fact that she doesn’t.  She knows that it only hurts the kids and  would never do anything to hurt them.  She is a wonderful mother and never says a thing to them about their dad.  Too try to soften the blow I told Josh that maybe his dad is sad that things haven’t worked out between him and Sis. I told him that might be why he’s saying the things he does and doesn’t really mean it.  Josh just said, “Yeah, maybe”.

I would love nothing more then to call Jon and give him a peace of my mind but I can’t do that. I know if I did Jon would just get mad at Josh for telling me these things and take it out on him.  Josh did tell me that he told his mom about it and I’m glad of that.

Now I know that kids that age can say and do things that they think might help them get what they want but I don’t think that is the case here. Josh was so upset about it that he even got a headache. He was sad and almost in tears as he was telling me about it.

One good thing. When they get to  court  the kids will have a Guardian Ad Litem who they can talk too. At their ages 14 & 12 I think they will take what they say into consideration and I don’t think they would even consider taking Brody. I don’t think Jon would even go after Brody.  He has no one who can help with the kids at all.  Both of his parents are gone and his sister’s live out of state so he’s on  his own.  And you know darn well if they talk to me I will hold nothing back.  I won’t blast Jon or say things like I think he’s a bum or anything like that,  but I will tell them the things Josh has told me. 

Sorry for the rant but I had to get that out of my system. Besides, I don’t want to forget the things Josh has told me so writing them down is a good thing.  Now I have to get busy around here and go beat the rugs.  Poor rugs, they will suffer from my anger lol.  Hope you all have a super duper day!

 

Sunday, January 29, 2012

Can YOU see it?

I have pictures on one of my blogs from photobucket and for some reason one of them has reached the bandwidth limit or something. Because of that  I now have an exceeded bandwidth image on my blog. The problem is though that it’s on all of my blogs and  not just in place of the picture. It is on the blog itself and it scrolls down over the words as you scroll down to read. Do you see it too? I don’t get it or know what to do about it. I just hope that at the first of the month when the bandwidth resets  that the  floating image goes away.
UPDATE: Thanks to Beth who told me what  was causing the problem it is now fixed! Thank you Beth xoxo
Yesterday I picked up my sister to take her to the car dealership too pick up her new Chevy Cruz. Oh that’s a nice car and wouldn’t mind having one myself. If it wasn’t for the payments and higher insurance rates I’d run right out and get one too. It sure is nice though! 
When  I got home from taking Jodi my daughter and I went to do a little shopping in Janesville. She needs some things for her new apartment when she moves in and so we decided to shop.  It turns out it was a good day to go. We went to Big Lots and they were having a special that if you buy 20 items you get an additional 20% off so it saved her $16.00.  She’s been buying things on and off the past year so she’s got just about everything she needs now. She’s loving that it’s all brand new and it’s things that SHE likes, (if you know what I mean). The big move will be next weekend and it couldn’t come fast enough for the kids. They are so excited and can’t wait to see where they will be living. Devan especially is excited and keeps asking questions about the place. I’m trying to decide if I’d be a bigger help helping her move or would staying home with Brody would be better. Probably keeping Brody is the way to go.  Her brothers will be helping her and a few friends too so I probably won’t be needed that much anyway.
Another snowy day here and kind of chilly. Reaching 40 tomorrow and 46 by Tuesday  I hear. That means the snow will melt and that’s fine with me. 
Have a wonderful day and a great week ahead. Keep warm and safe and don’t forget to smile!

Sunday, January 22, 2012

They’re Moving

Sis and the kids are moving out the 1st of Feburary.  She finally found a place that she can afford on her own and is so relieved. They will be living in an apartment not far from here. The best part is, it’s a security apartment. You have to buzz to get into the lobby or have a key. I LOVE that part of it! She does too!  It’s roomy and clean and very modern so I think they’ll be happy there and her and I both feel great knowing no one can get in without them knowing who it is.
We looked at a couple places the other day before she decided on the apartment and let me tell you, some of these places are beyond believable.  We looked at a duplex that was a dump and they wanted $775.00 a month for it, $100.00 + more then they want for the apartment.  When we got there the landlord was there “cleaning” it up. He was using the shop vac  so he didn’t hear us knocking on the door right away.  Before we even got inside the first thing I noticed as I was knocking on the door was that it was a HALLOW door! Can you believe that?! Who uses an inside door for a front door?  It wouldn’t take much for someone to bust that door down and get in.  In fact, it looked like someone had already kicked it in as the owner nailed a piece of plywood over what I assume was a hole at the bottom of the door. The bathroom was a mess and the kitchen wasn’t much better.  I opened the closet door and it too was hallow with a hole in the top of it that he hadn’t bothered fixing at all.  Not only all that, it stunk in there.  It smelled musty and moldy like it hadn’t had a good cleaning for a long long time.  I’m so glad that apartment came available.  I guess it didn’t matter though as I wouldn’t have let them move into that duplex anyway.  I would be nuts knowing that someone could kick that door in with one swift kick and get to them.  I would never sleep at night thinking about that worrying whether or not they are okay.
They’ve been here a year and 3 months now so it will sure be different around here with them gone.  It’s not like they won’t be here though. I’ll still have the kids before and after school until Sis gets home from work. And of course I’ll still have Brody most of the day and will have to take him back and forth from school.  At night is when I’ll notice it the most. It will be quiet again and I’m not sure how I feel about that. Sure, the kids get rowdy and can be noisy and even misbehave sometimes but I’m use to it now. They listen to me when they get too rowdy and I tell them to knock it off and know I mean business.  I ‘m sure I will miss them at night but I also know that the peace and quiet is good for me too.  I’m not as young and spry as I use to be ya know and need time to get regenerated lol.  The main thing is, I want them to be safe and happy, that’s the most important of all.
The kids are really excited about getting their own place. Josh said he’s going to keep his room clean this time lol.  Devan already  has plans as to how they will decorate the place.  Brody just likes the walk in closet where he can hide lol. 
Well that’s the latest news around here. Not much else going to right now other then the weather but that complaint can be saved for another day lol.  Here’s hoping you all have had a great weekend and wishing you a wonderful week ahead. Take now, ya hear!

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

It’s nasty out there!

The roads are covered with ice and snow and very slippery. When I took Brody to school this morning a car in front of me started fish tailing and I thought he was going to lose it. On top of that, the temps are going to continue to drop during the day. It’s 30 right now and not bad out but it’s going down to 0 by tonight. Temps like that will just make things freeze on top of what’s already frozen. Of course, the wind is wicked too so that makes it feel colder. Gotta take it slow and easy guys.

It’s just our luck too that the snow blower broke down. I guess the recoil won’t recoil so it’s in for repair. You know what that means don’t you? That means shoveling….YUCK!

Brody was sick last week and missed the entire week of school.  He got sick Saturday when he was at his Dad’s and it made Jon nervous so he brought him back here.  He threw up and got real feverish and kept crying. He was still not feeling well on Sunday but come Monday he acted like himself until evening. Tuesday was the same but then we noticed that he was developing a rash on his face and around his mouth. Sis took him to see the doctor and he confirmed what we thought it was. He got strep throat which turned into Scarlet Fever.  His fever never got really high, only 101, and he never complained of a sore throat either so we thought it was just a bug until he broke out with the rash. Strep can be so funny. Anyway, he’s feeling fine now and is happy to be able to go back to school.

We might be back to a quiet household again soon.  Sis found duplex in our school district that’s in her price range so her and the kids might be moving out.  Not sure how I feel about that. Oh, don’t get me wrong. I know it’s the right thing to do and something they need to do but it will be both a good thing and a bad thing.  It will be good for them to have their own place but it will be harder too.  I will either have to get up early and go there to be with the kids until they go to school or she will have to get them up and bring them here.  I will miss having them here for the most part. I won’t miss the mess that comes with having kids around though.  It’s been over a year now but finding a place in your price range, in the school district you want isn’t an easy thing to do.  Her and the kids are excited about it though so I hope it works out for them. I told her it would be just her luck that her soon to be ex would move into the other side of the duplex lol.  Wouldn’t that be a kick in the pants lol.

Well I guess I better go out and clean some more snow off the deck again. I gotta run over to Beth’s to see how many days it is until Spring. It can’t get here fast enough for me!

Ta Ta!